Six years ago, Yvonne Honigsberg was an avid runner with a demanding job as an acquisitions editor of academic medical books. At the age of 41, while on the treadmill at her gym, she suffered a stroke. She now has slight speech impediment, walks with a limp, and has lost the use of one arm and hand. Yet she keeps up an active schedule volunteering as a coach in New York City for story-tellers and a busy social life — including dates with attractive men.
A growing population of people like Honigsberg are living through middle age with disabilities related to stroke — when a blood clot blocks an artery or a blood vessel breaks, interrupting blood flow to an area of the brain, where cells begin to die. Over the past decade, the risk of death from stroke has fallen about 35 percent, according to a December 2014 report from the American Heart Association. Death rates from stroke have gone down as we've gotten better control of high blood pressure, diabetes, cholesterol, and smoking. Yet the prevalence of obesity, diabetes, and high blood pressure are rising, while the incidence of stroke has increased among adults under the age of 54. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reports that more than a third of Americans hospitalized for stroke in 2009 were under 65 years old.
With years of their lives ahead, these younger stroke survivors are making their way into the mainstream. After dating men from her stroke support group, when Honigsberg found herself single last year, she took the plunge and subscribed to Jdate.com, a popular site for Jews. At the end of her profile, she detailed the effects of her stroke, adding, “It would take a special person to deal with these things. This makes me, I guess, more tentative but sensitive now, to other people's challenges, both psychologically and physically."
Few people wrote her or responded to her notes, at first. However, within half a year she heard from a man who impressed her with his wit and kindness, and just before her subscription expired, they met. It turned out that his son suffered from a stutter. “He was familiar with the world of speech disability,” says Honigsberg, whose speech reveals only a hint of aphasia. “It was wonderful.”
When he moved to Florida for a new job and the relationship ended, Honigsberg kicked back into action and posted a profile on okcupid.com, a free site. This time, she didn’t go into details, stating only that she’d had a stroke and gave up her career to volunteer. She quickly heard from a handsome man her age. She was thrilled — until she recalled that her admirer didn’t know about the after effects of her stroke. “I asked friends if I should tell him more. They said, ‘Let him meet you,’” she says. She took their advice and set up a date. When they met, she began apologizing. “He stopped me and said, ‘Yvonne, I don’t care about any of that. I just want to be happy and I want to get to know you.”
Honigsberg was lucky that people at the gym called “911” immediately when they saw her in distress; she was unable to speak. Call and ask for an ambulance if you see or experience any of these symptoms, coming on suddenly: numbness or weakness in the face, arm, or leg, especially on one side of the body; confusion, trouble speaking, or difficulty understanding speech; trouble seeing in one or both eyes; trouble walking, dizziness, loss of balance, or lack of coordination; or a severe, unexplained headache. Don’t wait: The most effective treatments are possible only if the stroke is diagnosed within 3 hours. The early warning signals of a stroke, called a "mini-stroke" or transient ischemic attack are often ignored because the symptoms may go away in a matter of minutes.
Use the CDC’s “F.A.S.T.” test to evaluate a possible stroke:
F — Face: Ask the person to smile. Does one side of the face droop?
A — Arms: Ask the person to raise both arms. Does one arm drift downward?
S — Speech: Ask the person to repeat a simple phrase. Is their speech slurred or strange?
T — Time: If you observe any of these signs, call 911 immediately.
Younger victims are less likely to suspect stroke and rush to the hospital, and, even when they go, may be misdiagnosed. In a study at Wayne State University-Detroit Medical Center, eight of 57 patients ages 16 to 50 were sent home without proper treatment after a misdiagnosis of vertigo, migraine, alcohol intoxication, seizure, inner ear disorder, or other problems.
According to the National Stroke Association, you can help protect yourself by getting at least two and a half hours of aerobic exercise a week; drinking alcohol in moderation; quitting smoking; eating less red meat and more vegetables, nuts, grains and seafood; and treating risk factors such as high blood pressure, diabetes and circulation problems. However, strokes can occur without any obvious risk factors, for example caused by a abnormal passageway in the heart called a patent foramen ovale (PFO). About one in five Americans has a PFO.
But a stroke doesn’t have to keep you on the sidelines forever. Honigsberg’s romance with her new admirer has blossomed. “He’s helpful and attentive — a romantic guy,” she says.
March 20, 2015
Christopher Nystuen, MD, MBA