October 17, 2016
I have a confession to make — one I’m sure that many parents can identify with, though they may not choose to vocalize it. I secretly enjoy the few times a year I get to travel for work. My story might be different if I traveled all the time. As life stands right now, I relish the thought of spending a few hours alone in my car, a few nights with a hotel room all to myself, and freedom from the tasks that come with having school-aged children (helping with homework, fixing lunches, bath- and bedtime routines). Adhering to my schedule, rather than my family’s, is also a refreshing change. Plus, it makes reunion with my family and appreciation for our routines all the more precious upon my return.
That being said, traveling for work is not relaxing in the least. It’s early mornings and late nights, with little opportunity to fit in exercise or keep to healthy eating habits. (The same can be said for family vacations. As I like to remind my husband, “We don’t go on vacation to save money or lose weight.”) What’s a writer to do when the conference press room offers limitless amounts of coffee, soda, chips, candies, pretzels, and granola bars? Take advantage, of course! Switching to half caff in the middle of the day and eating more granola bars than candy bars are half-hearted attempts to stop fueling myself with so much junk.
Once I return to my home to my regular work and home routines, I find that I’m sleep-deprived and not at all pleased with how clothes are fitting. What’s a busy working mom to do? How can I keep it together, mentally and physically, while meeting deadlines, making dinner, and keeping up with the kids?
For me, it all boils down to energy and having enough of it. I am such a better person inside and out after a good night’s sleep. I realize I can no longer scoot by on six hours of sleep for days on end. Productivity plummets and I turn into an absolute grouch after 4 p.m. Seven hours is ideal, and eight is the Holy Grail. (The National Sleep Foundation recommends that adults over 25 get seven to nine hours a night. I’d like to meet the lucky person who has the luxury of nine hours.)
That being said, I realize there will be more days than not that six hours of sleep will be about it. That’s certainly the number I was lucky to get during my most recent excursion for work. To help myself get reenergized afterwards, to get my body and mind back to some kind of normalcy, I made a few changes to my daily routine.
I’m in the midst of implementing all of these suggestions (though I still haven’t figured out how to deal with the pile of laundry that always seems to be waiting for me upon my return). I’m hoping they’ll help reenergize you as well.
September 16, 2016
It can be hard to ask for an equal wage when you’re not confident of your own worth. It can be hard to begin a mentor or mentee relationship because you’re secretly certain that you don’t have as much to offer as everyone thinks you do. It can be hard to speak frankly with your boss about climbing the corporate ladder, or family-related leave policies, if you’re more certain than not that you’ll be shot down the minute you walk into that corner office.