When a Loved One Has a Mental Illness
It’s hard to watch a loved one deal with mental illness. You want to help. Yet you may not know what to do. Your loved one may even push you away. But don’t give up. Your support is needed now more than ever. Talk to your loved one’s health care provider. Or contact a group for families of people with mental illness. They can help give you the guidance you need.
What you can do
Living with mental illness can be overwhelming. Your loved one may say or do things that shock or frighten you. Sometimes your loved one may resist treatment. Knowing what to do can help you cope:
Help your loved one get proper care. Often people with a mental illness deny there’s a problem. Or they may not be able to seek help on their own.
Encourage your loved one to stick with treatment. This may be your most crucial job. Medicines that treat mental illness can have side effects. As a result, your loved one may stop taking them. But this will likely cause symptoms to come back. You might also want to go to healthcare provider visits with your loved one to discuss medicine and other issues.
Provide emotional support. Encourage your loved one to share his or her feelings. Listen and don’t judge. Let your loved one know he or she can count on you.
Be patient. The healing process takes time. In some cases, your loved one may never fully recover. But his or her symptoms will likely improve.
Ask them to join in. Invite your loved one to take part in activities. But don’t push.
Take care of yourself. Helping your loved one can be very stressful. Take time to care for yourself. You’ll have more patience and will be better able to cope.
If you are worried your loved one may harm themselves or attempt suicide, ask him or her. Asking doesn’t cause suicide.
If the suicide risk is not immediate, call the person’s healthcare provider, go to a local mental health clinic, or call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-TALK (8255). It is open 24 hours a day, every day. They speak English and Spanish. This resource provides immediate crisis intervention and information on local resources. It is free and confidential.
Don’t ignore a person's talk of suicide or think it’s just an attention-seeking behavior. As hard as it is, talking can save lives.
Call 911 if the person is at immediate risk of suicide (he or she has a suicide plan and access to a method such as guns or drugs). Or take the person to the nearest emergency room. Don’t leave the person alone. Remove any guns and medicines.
National Alliance on Mental Illness 800-950-6264 www.nami.org
National Institute of Mental Health 866-615-6464 www.nimh.nih.gov
Mental Health America 800-969-6642 www.nmha.org
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 800-273-TALK (8255) www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org
February 13, 2018
Family Members and Caregivers. National Alliance on Mental Illness.
Ballas, Paul, DO,Fraser, Marianne, MSN, RN,Images Reviewed by Staywell medical art team.