7. Maybe your child will outgrow his disability.
This implies that there is something wrong with your child. Some high-functioning children will obviously manage their lives better than children with more severe disabilities. My kid will always be autistic.
8. What about his future?
Honestly, before my child was born, I envisioned him going to college. I’m not so sure. I’m also not sure if college is right for everyone. My brother spent a year at college and left to become a cabinet maker. He loves his job and is good at it.
Most parents worry about their child’s future. Sharing stories about adults with special needs who can’t manage on their own should be kept to yourself.
9. Don’t stare.
We’ve all been taught it’s not polite. It makes us and our kids comfortable.
10. Don’t question my child’s intelligence.
He may approach a problem differently. That doesn’t make him wrong or slow.
So what should you say to parents of special needs children? Ask us how we are and if we need any help. You can also inquire about our children’s accomplishments. We’re proud of our kids and like talking about them.
For parents of children with special needs, Leigh Kolodny-Kraft, LCADC, CSAT-C, suggests that if you’re feeling generous, you can explain to strangers and family members who make off-handed comments that your child is not neurotypical, broken, or damaged. “They’re neurodiverse and live in the world with differences that need to be respected.”
February 27, 2020
Janet O’Dell, RN