Helping Siblings Cope with Your Child's Surgery
When a child is having surgery, it’s important to remember that siblings are also affected by the experience. They may not understand why their brother or sister needs surgery. Knowing what to expect can help them be more comfortable with the idea of surgery.
How will siblings react?
Following are common feelings that siblings may have when their brother or sister is having surgery:
Fear that their brother or sister is very sick and may not come home from the hospital
Fear that no one will be around to take care of their needs when parents are with their brother or sister
Jealousy that their brother or sister gets more care and attention than they do
Guilt that they are jealous or thinking bad thoughts about their brother or sister
Guilt that they are well and their brother or sister is sick.
How can you help siblings cope with surgery?
Following are ways to help siblings cope with surgery:
Keep your emotions under control. Your children can sense how you’re feeling. If you’re upset, your children may respond in a similar manner. Try to stay calm and relaxed.
Explain to siblings why their brother or sister needs surgery. Allow them to ask questions, and answer their questions truthfully.
Encourage siblings to talk about how they’re feeling.
If possible, spend time with siblings apart from their brother or sister to reassure them that you care.
Keep routines at home and school as normal as possible. Be specific with siblings about who will take care of their needs when you’re at the hospital. For instance, a relative may be responsible for driving them to school and making them dinner.
Allow siblings to visit their brother or sister in the hospital.
Have siblings write cards, send email, or phone their brother or sister in the hospital if visits are not possible.
What is a child life specialist?
Many hospitals have a child life specialist. This person is specially trained to help children understand and cope with their hospital experience. Families can arrange to see a child life specialist when their child is scheduled for surgery. The child life specialist uses age-appropriate items such as books, dolls, and toy medical or hospital equipment to explain surgery. Parents and siblings are encouraged to attend and be involved in these sessions.
October 02, 2017
Adler, Liora, C., MD,Dozier, Tennille, RN, BSN, RDMS,Image reviewed by StayWell art team.